Where does your relationship actually stand today?
Ten reflective questions. One clear Relationship Pulse Score. A compassionate first look at your attachment style, patterns, triggers, and emotional needs — free.
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A clear picture, gently held
Relationship Pulse Score
A single 0–100 score reflecting the overall health of how you relate — honest and compassionate.
Your attachment tendency
Anxious, avoidant, or secure — explored without clinical labels, with warmth and care.
Your recurring pattern
The dance you find yourself in again and again — named with care, not blame.
Your core triggers
What sets you off — and what's quietly underneath it, softer than you expect.
Your emotional needs
What you most need to feel safe, loved, and fully yourself in a close relationship.
A reflective first step
One small, doable invitation for the week ahead. No overhaul — just reflective motion.
Three simple steps
Answer 10 questions
Reflective, honest prompts about how you relate. No right answers — only true ones.
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Get your results
See your Pulse Score instantly. Vincent follows up on WhatsApp within 24 hours.
Clarity comes from pausing to look inward
Most of us move through our closest relationships on autopilot — reacting from old patterns, protecting old wounds, without ever quite naming what's happening.
Ten honest questions won't fix everything. But they can give you the language to begin — and a score that says, clearly: here is where you are.
Take the free assessmentTen reflective questions
Reflect honestly
Deep down, I worry I'm not truly lovable as I am.
There are no right answers. Trust your first response.
Reflect honestly
When my partner goes quiet, I tend to read the worst into it.
Notice the feeling before the thought.
Reflect honestly
I find it easier to give love than to receive it gracefully.
Think of the last time someone complimented or cared for you.
Reflect honestly
I often feel I need to earn my place in this relationship.
Let your gut answer before your mind edits it.
Reflect honestly
When there's conflict, I tend to withdraw rather than speak up.
Think of your most recent disagreement.
Reflect honestly
I feel genuinely seen and understood by the people closest to me.
Not just heard — truly seen, as you are.
Reflect honestly
I replay difficult conversations, wondering what I did wrong.
Be honest — it's more common than most people admit.
Reflect honestly
I have a clear sense of my own needs in this relationship and can name them.
Awareness, not performance, is what we're exploring here.
Reflect honestly
I feel safe enough to be vulnerable with the people I'm closest to.
Safety here means emotional, not just physical.
Final question
Overall, I believe this relationship has room to grow and deepen.
Whatever the current state — potential is worth noticing.
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Reading your compass…
Heard with kindness
"Engaging Vincent was one of the best choices we made. We came in feeling hopeless, close to separating — but his thoughtful questions and steady, safe presence helped us open up honestly. After just three sessions, we noticed a real shift in how we communicate."
"We felt connected to Vincent from our very first session. Beyond guiding us through our relationship issues, he helped each of us understand ourselves better as individuals — always asking the right questions and probing deeper into what we were really experiencing."
"Vincent helped us rebuild our marriage during what felt like a chaotic, disconnected season. His guidance brought us noticeably closer, both emotionally and mentally. We'd wholeheartedly recommend him to anyone working through marriage difficulties."
"Working with Vincent over three sessions was such a relief — he responded with urgency and helped us feel safe enough to open up. My husband and I ended up sharing more with each other than we had in a long time, and left with real momentum to make things work."
"Vincent reached out proactively and things were noticeably better in our marriage by our second session. His patience and communication made a real difference — he even offers Zoom sessions for couples working overseas."
"Vincent helped my partner and I see our relationship from a fresh perspective and set a shared goal around our values and feelings."
"Seeking Vincent's help may have been one of the best decisions I've made — he's patient, listens closely, and offers thoughtful advice as a couple. I felt completely comfortable talking with him and would recommend him to anyone facing relationship issues."
"Vincent has been remarkably responsive whenever we've faced issues in our marriage — a quality that matters enormously in a crisis. I'd recommend him to anyone dealing with marital difficulties, since quick support makes all the difference."
"From our very first session, I could tell Vincent was sincere and genuinely listened. He even checked in with my husband and me separately between sessions, which showed how invested he was in helping us resolve things — I'd recommend him to any couple facing marriage struggles."
"Meeting Vincent to work on my marriage was a real turning point. He was approachable, let me talk through my problems, and taught me techniques for working through negative emotions that I plan to keep using going forward."
Vincent Soo
Integrative Psychotherapeutic Coach • Certified Relationship Coach • Attachment Core Pattern Therapy™ (ACPT) Therapist • Certified Clinical Trauma Specialist
Founder, Authentic Men Asia
Founder, Vincent Soo Coaching
I hold a Master of Social Science in Counselling and a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology, with more than 20 years of experience across the social service sector and private practice.
My professional training spans relationship and couples work, attachment, trauma-informed practice, psychotherapy and coaching, cognitive behavioural therapy, emotional regulation, mind-body regulation, breathwork and personal transformation.
Relationship, Couples & Attachment Work
Trauma, Emotional Wellbeing & Mind-Body Work
Coaching & Therapeutic Approaches
MSocSc (Counselling) | BA (Psychology)
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